We are all guilty of displaying improper and off-putting body language at some point in our careers. Whether avoiding eye contact during an interview, or impatiently tapping our fingers on the table during a management meeting, our nonverbal communication conveys a distinct impression – no matter your intended message.
In the spirit of full disclosure, I am guilty of the crossed arms. When engrossed in a conversation, it is an automatic response that says I am in deep thought and listening; however, according to the article, my body language suggests that I’m hoping my co-worker leaves me alone and goes on his merry way.
The good news is that my nonverbal communication does not channel Kanye West, the article’s poster child for forgetting to smile.
It’s always a good thing to do a mental and visual check-in to ensure we convey the true meaning of our intentions. Think I hear a New Year’s resolution calling…
What’s your nonverbal no-no? Leave us a reply below.
Last week, Dr. Oz had a physician, Dr. Sue Varma, on his show who detailed the health challenges that befall certain personality types (What does your personality reveal about your health?). For example, Type C folks often bottle up their feelings, and potentially shave years off their lives because they refuse to say no to others because they want to please them. Saying yes to people or situations that warrant a “no,” can also have an impact beyond health.
I am an unabashed optimist who believes in embracing opportunity, which usually comes from saying yes to something: a last-minute speaking engagement, guest blog post, or a chance to submit an article. The problem is that we sometimes say yes to others, when we would gain more power (personal and professional) from just saying no.
Recently, I had two opportunities, one professional and the other personal, presented to me. Let me address the work-related one, which would have allowed me to practice my professional strengths. There is no doubt that I would have enjoyed my work. I ultimately decided not to pursue the opportunity because my intuition signaled that it would interfere with other professional opportunities that may have presented themselves after committing to the engagement. Making the decision to decline was initially a hard one, but one that I did not regret because another, better opportunity came along one week later.
I am not suggesting that you turn down opportunities, willy-nilly, that could potentially lead to great experiences.
The point of the Power of No is that when we take time to think decisions through thoroughly, peacefully, and with a sense of clarity, we sometimes realize that saying yes to something that we should really decline could interfere with better opportunities that are more beneficial for us.
That’s the Power of No.
Note: This blog post originally appeared on the first Ask The Strategist site on April 12, 2013.
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Dawn Maslar, Love Biologist, Author, and Professor, joins us on The Strategy Sessions radio show on Tuesday, February 4, 2014, 11:00 a.m. – 11:30 a.m. ET to talk about the biology of love, what attracts people to one another, and how science signals who we may end up with as mates.
Dawn Maslar, MS is an award-winning author, biology professor, and former radio talk show host. Dawn is known as the love biologist, a growing new breed of scientists, using her formal training to research and educate with social media. Her goal is to make biology fun, informative and relevant. She currently speaks, blogs, and vlogs about the science of love on her wildly successful website www.dawnmaslar.com and YouTube channel at DawnMaslarTV.
WHO: Dawn Maslar, MS, Love Biologist Kesi Stribling, Host of The Strategy Sessions radio show
The Strategy Sessions radio show Episode: When Love Meets Science: A Conversation with Dawn Maslar
Tuesday, February 4, 2014 at 11:00 a.m. (EST)
Originally a virtual interview started in 2005 featuring local leaders in business, The Strategy Sessions has evolved into a respected radio show on BlogTalkRadio that features top strategists in business, entrepreneurship, careers, youth, women’s issues, community, and health. The Strategy Sessions airs live on the first and third Tuesdays of the month at 11:00 a.m. ET, and is hosted by career, marketing, and business strategist, Kesi Stribling. One of 300 featured hosts of the more than 16,000 shows on BlogTalkRadio, Kesi employs her hallmark interviewing style to cultivate innovative and engaging conversations with guests, including leaders of the U.S. Small Business Administration, AAA, Ladies America, LifeLock, Design Industries Foundation Fighting AIDS, American Express, DC Department of Homeland Security and Emergency Management, the American Heart Association, Lockheed Martin, and Internships.com. For more information, or to download the podcast, visit http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thestrategysessions
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